I´ve been reading the book "Anybody
out there?" written by Marian Keyes. It´s a classic chick lit book about a
girl named Anna and her way back from a terrible car accident. It´s a
book in two parts and at the start you don´t really know, as a reader, what
have happened to Anna. She´s hurt very badly with broken bones and lots of
scratches and her family avoids talking about her boyfriend. In the middle of
the book Anna realizes her boyfriend was killed in the car accident and that
she needs to deal with the sorrow for him. The second part is about her
learning that she deserves to be happy, even if she´s missing the love of her
life.
This story really touches my heart because
last summer one of my best friends, Sara, lost her boyfriend very suddenly. He
was out for a bike ride and just fell of the bike and died. He was young, only
33 years old, so it was a total chock for everyone around them. In this book
the girl, Anna, can´t understand that her boyfriend isn’t around anymore. She
keeps calling him, texting him and emailing him without any response. I don´t
think my friend Sara was that bad, but I know that she sometimes forget that he
was dead and was about to call him before she remembered that wasn´t possible
anymore. At the funeral she was a total mess. I cried so much just because I
could hear her crying and see her shaking from the first row. It was one of the
toughest hours of my life. I can´t imagine what she was going trough and
hopefully I will never be aware of it either.
Some weeks after the funeral Sara was
visiting me in my home in Karlstad and stayed over for a couple of days
together with some other friends. We was hanging out, watching movies, drinking
wine and we even went out on town one of the nights. She was in sorrow, but she
allowed herself to have fun with friends. We wasn´t talking about what have
happened, she didn´t want to, but she knew we was there for her in case she
wanted to talk to someone. Sara knew that life goes on, regardless how hard it
feels. And that´s something I think you also can learn from the book. Anna is
in the beginning blinded by sorrow and can´t do anything at all. But time heals
all wounds and both Anna and Sara get´s back on track. Anna keeps on with her
work, hanging out with her friends and even learns it´s okay to love someone
new, without forgetting about her lost love. I know my friend Sara is on right
track with all of this and I really hope she will let herself fall in love with
someone new when she´s ready for that. Life hit her once, but she got up and kept
walking!
